14 Different Ways to Say ‘I Love You’

Various methods, same message.

Sometimes words fall short — Even those as potent as I love you. It’s important to show AND tell. The phrase is easily and frequently said, often abused. It’s action that really gives it meaning. Also, when you’ve loved another person for a long while, you want to keep the message fresh and be creative.

Here are 14 ways to say I love you without using the words:

1. Invest in your partner’s career, dreams and goals.
Nothing says I love you like “I believe in and support you.” It was recently reported that NFL star Russell Wilson bought his wife Ciara’s master recordings so that the music artist could start her own record label. The report was later questioned. Either way, just the idea induces a collective swoon.

Most of us can’t offer anything on this grand of a scale, but we can buy a personalized apron for an aspiring chef, or transform the basement into a writing studio for our partner / author.

2. Get them something they haven’t asked for but you know they want.
If you pass by a pair of shoes in the mall that he or she drools over, go back and get them. Shows that you’re paying attention.

3. Do things they haven’t asked you to do, because they need to be done.
No one likes to nag or always ask people to do things. If you’re handy, and she mentions something that can be repaired is broken, try to fix it. If he moves, offer to assist in decorating the new place. Not only does it show you care, it’s simply helpful.

4. Defend them publicly.
Be honest and tell someone when you think they are wrong in a situation, but don’t let them get attacked and humiliated in mixed company. Those are the times when we most need to feel like someone has our back.

5. Send flowers.
Don’t shy away from clichés just because they’re common and maybe not as imaginative. They’re popular for a reason. Many enjoy receiving pretty flowers and other gestures that let them know they’re on your mind. People like to feel special to someone who is special to them.

6. Show up.
To weddings, office Christmas parties, award ceremonies, birthday dinners, etc. You don’t have to attend every single event, but part of the fun is having a date for that kind of stuff. What’s the point of being in a relationship if you still feel single?

7. Send random text messages to say you’re thinking about them.
Takes five seconds. Poetic skills not required. Just a quick acknowledgement does the job.

8. Post them on social media.
I get it, Facebook and Instagram have gotten huge. Some like to keep their love life private. You don’t have to flood the news feed, but if you post other personal photos, it can’t hurt to include one of your boo now and then. I see no reason to go out of your way to completely omit them. There’s a difference between being private and being secretive.

9. Make a list of all the things you love about them.
Read the list aloud or give it to them to keep. It shows that the emotion is rooted in something tangible. You actually have reasons and have considered what it is about them that gives you butterflies.

10. Take an interest in their interests.
You may not be into art, but if they are, inquire a little bit about it. Consider accompanying them to a museum. Learning about what a person likes helps you learn about them.

11. Bring home their favorite candy or ice cream.
It’s all about the little things. Small gestures such as this say I like making you smile. After a long day, that could be exactly what someone needs.

12. Plan outings to do things and go places neither of you have experienced.
Creating memories that the two of you only have with each other fosters a unique bond.

13. Surprise them at work for a lunch date.
While they think you’re working, somewhere else, or at home relaxing on an off day, show them you’re willing to sacrifice time for other things in order to spend a little with them.

14. Above all, love people in their language.
If their love language is Words of Affirmation, regular verbal communication may actually suffice. And that’s perfectly fine. Makes no sense to try and love someone creatively if it’s ineffective. If their language is receiving gifts, find little trinkets once a month. It doesn’t always have to be something extravagant.

If you take the time to learn how a person needs to be loved it speaks volumes. They’ll hear you loud and clear.

Author of the critically acclaimed book on women and relationship status, “Single That.” https://www.amazon.com/dp/1687069786

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