Published inScribe·PinnedMember-onlyGood MourningLiving in the face of death. — It feels callous to go on with normal life, tragedy after tragedy. After tragedy. After tragedy. After massacre. In the trenches of devastation, it feels dismissive and inappropriate to post a picture of my sunset or write about the person I love. Just as well. Because after hearing at least…Grief2 min readGrief2 min read
Published inScribe·PinnedMember-onlyThere’s Always Next SummerIt’s that time of summer when you notice the days getting shorter. You chase the light you feel slipping away. As though if you hold it, if you go out and appreciate the warmth of the sun on your skin, it might decide to stay. Every doing feels better when…Summer2 min readSummer2 min read
Published inP.S. I Love You·PinnedMember-onlyHow Your Relationship With Your Mother Affects Your Love LifeYour attachment style was formed long before your first crush. — It dawned on me the other day that I haven’t a single childhood memory of being held while crying. I’m sure it happened. I wasn’t raised by animals. There had to be at least one occasion when someone pulled me close and wiped my tears. Perhaps I was a baby…Love5 min readLove5 min read
Published inScribe·PinnedMember-onlyDespair Could Not Have HerThus, it can not have me. — My grandmother always talked about her “ship coming in.” It would happen someday. She was certain. To support this belief, she enrolled in a local college after having 10 children and helping to raise several grandchildren, me and my younger brother included. She was the oldest student in all her…Life Lessons3 min readLife Lessons3 min read
Published inHello, Love·Aug 10Member-onlyIf Science Could Match You With Your SoulmateWould you let it? — I’ve been watching a show called Soulmates. And a little while ago I watched The One. Both are based in a world where scientists have developed a test that matches people with their perfect partners. We’re not talking compatibility quizzes and chemistry questionnaires. We’re talking retina scans and DNA analyses…Love3 min readLove3 min read
Published inScribe·Jan 4Member-onlyHow Long Has It Been Since You’ve Been Touched?During a podcast episode featuring Ph.D. power couple John and Julie Gottman, the latter declared: “Touch is as essential to our well-being as food, water, and exercise.” Quite the terrifying concept. I can go to the grocery store and carry home bags of food. I can push or pull the…Humanity2 min readHumanity2 min read
Published inScribe·Dec 27, 2022Member-onlyThe Search for Everything Especially JoyI find that the older I get, the less content I feel in persistent aloneness. And this is the most vulnerable thing I’ve ever said, in the most vulnerable way I can say it. That I enjoy my company as much as anyone’s. I revel in the peace of quiet…Joy3 min readJoy3 min read
Aug 21, 2022Member-onlyManti Te’o and Things We Do For LoveFor love, Manti Te’o formed a long-term, long-distance relationship with a woman he’d never met and would never meet. The former University of Notre Dame football phenom and NFL linebacker claimed this woman as his girlfriend. He believed she suffered life-threatening injuries in a car crash that left her confined…Love3 min readLove3 min read
Published inHello, Love·Jul 3, 2022Member-onlyMarriage is EasyAccording to a sociologist and a writer. — Two women discussed marriage before a live audience of which I was a member. One a sociologist, the other a writer. But this wasn’t a talk on science or craft. They kind of stumbled onto the topic and fell into elation over a shared perspective. The sociologist asked the newlywed…Love4 min readLove4 min read
Published inHello, Love·May 23, 2022Member-onlySelf-Love Is a Run-On SentenceMore than a verb. — Someone asked me how I learned to love myself. I shrugged like I always did and recited my typical rundown of books I’ve read and philosophies I’ve adopted that helped (and still help) me along my way. It would be a long while before I formed a definitive answer to…Self Love2 min readSelf Love2 min read
