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Author of the critically acclaimed book on women and relationship status, “Single That.” https://www.amazon.com/dp/1687069786

Reasons may vary, but the result is the same.

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I think I’ve been love bombed. I think you have too. It’s so common that anyone who’s dated more than one or two people has likely endured the emotionally jolting experience. All we’ve done in recent years is give it a name.

“Love bombing is an attempt to accelerate the…


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Something about stumbling into this aura without expending energy to get there made it feel even more miraculous than usual. The effortlessness resounded joy in my heart. I knew that at that moment, if only at that moment, I’d arrived someplace sacred.

I loved someone I’d only just met, who…


And reasons we should stop.

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I’ve been single for far more cumulative years of my womanhood than I’ve been in a relationship. Externally, I watched this relationship status evolve into a role. Amongst family and friends and even in dating, a few years ago it felt like my life became a monolithic sitcom: The Perpetual…


You’ve mastered loving yourself, now let’s build on that foundation.

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I remain one of the most aggressive beaters of the self-love drum. Self-love is the foundation for healthy relationships and any we try to build while it’s undeveloped will crumble. Self-love is the faucet from which all other love flows. I said that to say, sometimes we don’t let the…


What happens when you let it take the wheel.

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I’ve tried.

I’ve tried to tell myself I’m going to sit still in love or contentment and wait out an egregious circumstance deemed a “rough patch” as it kills me. As it betrays everything I believe in and stand for. And when I tell myself I’m going to try and…


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The bacon curled with slight sizzles on top of the heating vent as my brother and I waited impatiently for it to turn a darker pink. Dark enough for us to think it was done enough for our consumption. …


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I decided that it didn’t matter what major I chose in college. It didn’t matter what I studied or that I obtained a degree at all, really. Because I was going to play professional basketball. That would be my career, traveling the world performing a sport I’d discovered I loved…


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In the valley of my emotional intelligence, I left unmanned the front desk my superiors instructed me to manage without so much as a note addressing my whereabouts. There was no time. After reading a text message, I sprang from my seat and power walked to the building’s single-stall restroom…


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I’m continually reminded that a time before mine wasn’t that long ago. The clock has ticked forward faster than the progress it might represent. This is what I thought about today when I thought about Matt.

I resist recounting these events because I hate playing into the social construct of…


How the entertainer exemplifies living outside the box.

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I believe we severely undervalue the societal importance of not just Jennifer Lopez, but celebrities in general. Many people have a difficult time viewing them outside their box of physical ability and creative genius. We tell athletes to “shut up and dribble” and entertainers to stick to entertaining. People say…

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