Allison, I can relate to this dilemma so much! I sometimes wonder too if i’m being dishonest or accepting less than I want in my attempt to not pressure someone into commitment. I think the key is in making a distinction between “pressure” and making someone aware. I aim to be honest about what I want without forcing the issue. I think if the other person wants it too, they’ll act accordingly. If they don’t, well I’d rather let go than try to persuade them.

I like the idea of letting a relationship naturally unfold, but not suppressing your desires once they become clear.

Author of the critically acclaimed book on women and relationship status, “Single That.”

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