It is possible to do both, at the same time.
It seems almost impossible, to be vulnerable while also feeling safe. The very definition of vulnerability entails a level of defenselessness. In order to truly experience love, we have to be open. We have to surrender the control that pride and ego wish to maintain in favor of offering the most honest, authentic version of ourselves. How can we do such a thing while also protecting our hearts from abuse? I believe the answer is not in seeking to withhold anything in an attempt to avoid disappointment, but in practicing selective engagement.
When you value something, you’re choosy about who is allowed to garner possession. It’s not community property that anyone can have or use. You definitely don’t continue giving it to the person who has already caused considerable damage. There are standards in place and enforced as to how it is to be cared for.
Nothing is valuable if not our hearts. As the saying goes, everything that we do flows from it. Our outlook on life, our vitality, demeanor, state of mind, mental and emotional well-being, and the way that we treat others stems from the condition of our hearts. If it’s not right, nothing else will be.
We can’t just entrust our hearts to everyone who comes into our lives in hopes that they’ll love us…
