Rainbow After a Rough Year

4 min readDec 5, 2023
Photo by Tim Goedhart on Unsplash

I know one thing about you. It is certain. If you’re reading this, you’ve made it through 100 percent of your worst days—even the ones you weren’t sure you could.

Hold on to that fact as we turn the page from 2023 to 2024.

People like to scoff at the significance of a new year and mumble on about how we can change, things can change, at any time. They’re not wrong. However, the start of a new year hits a mental “reset” button. And there is no more powerful tool at our disposal than our minds.

If you had a tough year, what matters most is that you go into the next twelve months believing things can get better. To do that you may need to rid yourself of stuff that makes it difficult to foster that belief. You may need to limit interaction with a negative family member or co-worker for the next few weeks. It might be helpful to stop watching the news for the remainder of December.

You don’t have to pretend you’re okay when you’re not or cut off everyone you care about. Just be more intentional with where your energy goes when you’re able to direct it. So much awfulness happens in the world beyond our power.

Let’s control what we can.

I’ve decided to delete all my social media apps until January. As much as I appreciate the community, support, and ability to keep up with loved ones it has afforded me—it’s time for a hiatus. I’ve checked social media nearly every day for more than 15 years; since the inception of MySpace.

(Who remembers MySpace? What a time!)

I relished creating page playlists and arranging my “Top Friends.” One of my real-life best friends and I would wake up every morning, sometimes in the middle of the night, to play Sorority Life back when these platforms really were just about good clean fun and casual contact.

I don’t have to tell you online times have changed. The performative nature of social media, the information overload, and the crassness of many users has really started to wear on me. Yet, I know that my outlook on things stems largely from within. So, I’m taking a break in hopes it will reorient my perspective — or at least help me cultivate balance.

Social media may…




Pushcart Prize nominated essayist and memoirist. Author. Music connoisseur. Multi-passionate creative. I’ve lost a lot of sleep to dreams….