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We Should Declare Consistency the Sixth Love Language
If you’ve read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, then you know that the book nails it in terms of the various ways that we interpret love. It’s all-encompassing. Some of us need to be told that we’re loved with Words of Affirmation. Others need to be shown, whether through Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts, or Quality Time. We may need a little of each but all likely favor one of these languages above the others in terms of what makes us feel cared for.
I think there’s another prominent love language, however. Often, at least for me, even if I’m being spoken to in my language, it will not resonate if it’s inconsistent. And when I’m not being spoken to in my language, if the manner in which a person is obviously trying to communicate their adoration for me is unwavering, I will recognize it. Consistency is a love language. Whatever you do, do it habitually and without loss of enthusiasm.
There is nothing I appreciate more than someone who regularly offers the version of themselves that ignited my initial interest. We all have bad days and varying moods, but you can’t be hot and cold and expect me to still feel the warmth. It doesn’t always have to be grand gestures and declarations, but there should be consistent traits. The message has to be regularly…
