Why I Don’t Pressure Men For a Commitment
I have to start by saying this could go one of two ways. Not pushing a man that you’re seriously dating toward a commitment can lead to either him prolonging the “situationship” and uncertainty as long as possible, or he’ll appreciate the lack of pressure and initiate the conversation himself. It won’t always render the result that you may want. I’ve experienced both outcomes. Nonetheless, I still believe this is the best way to approach an exclusive romantic relationship for a few reasons.
I don’t ever want a man to feel as though he was coerced or manipulated into being my partner. More than this, I need to know that he wasn’t. I need to know, without a shadow of a doubt, that he chose me.
I see it often, where people will just settle for a relationship that they don’t want, or accept a relationship to which they didn’t overtly agree. Fear of being alone, hurting someone’s feelings, or even losing them contributes to such arrangements.
You’d think that if you’re afraid to lose someone it’s a sign that you should commit to them. But not always. Sometimes people are afraid to lose you because they don’t have other options, they’ve grown fond of you but still wish to date other people (they don’t want you dating other people though), or even because they…
